The Brief History Of Al-Anon
A family of support groups for people who have been affected by alcoholism in their family is Al-Anon. The aim of these groups is to be recuperative and curative.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 with the aim of providing support for those affected by alcohol abuse by loved ones. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is the first alcoholic support group that was started by the husband of Lois Wilson who went on to later start her own support group, Al-Anon. Lois W sort to help others suffering at the hands of alcoholics like herself. Al-Anon is an organization self-supported through member donations. Support groups meetings help alcoholics' family members and friends to cope with the situation and treat their loved ones better, even if they haven't recovered yet.
Providing support to family members by making them understand that they are not alone in this struggle is the primary focus of Al-Anon.
Alcoholism Affecting A Family
Since it has a deleterious influence on both the drinker and those around them, Al-anon treats the disease of alcoholism as a family illness. It is integral for the alcoholic's recovery to have a family and friend support system around them.
Many family members are known to blame themselves for the drinking problem of their loved one, and in many cases do not understand why the recovery of their loved one is a priority. During the Al-Anon gathering, people are educated about taking alcoholism not as a one person problem but as a joint issue in the family.
Alateen Is Al-Anon For Teenagers
A particular group called Alateen assists young people impacted by alcoholism in their family is also run by Al-Anon.
Teens get to associate with each other and share experiences of how alcoholism has affected them.
Al-Anon Group Advantages
Alcoholism has affected many people directly and indirectly and you will meet these people in this program. The best part about this program is that you can all relate with the same issue. Being with people who understand your struggles and whom you can talk to is a big plus. These meetings are widespread all over the country. There is always an Al-Anon program near you and you just need to get in touch with us on 0800 246 1509 .
What You Should Anticipate From A Meeting
If you know someone who is an alcoholic, then Al-Anon is the best place for you. Al-Anon can assist you if you are anxious about someone's drinking habit or if their lifestyle affects you personally.
Since they are sure what will happen, some people don't feel free to go to the first meeting. What you must remember when you attend an Al-Anon meeting:
- Al-Anon is a group that is unidentified
- Whether personally or through a family member, everyone in each meeting has been impacted by alcoholism
- Getting things off your chest is one way of recovery encouraged in this group although it is not mandatory
- These Meetings Are Of Different Types
- You may find some more beneficial to you than others.
- Al-Anon is not based on any religion
- The 12 recovery steps are followed in this group
Going to the meeting means that you accept the fact that there are matters discussed that will be of help to you or not. The members get to go about their own personal experiences.
Al-Anon And The Twelve Steps
Usually, meetings start with someone reading from the 12 step program. The 12 steps were adapted from the AA 12 Step program. An Al-Anon member is required to take on a sponsor who will help them work through the program and provide support when needed. The 12 Steps are as follows:
- We did admit we were powerless over alcoholism, that our lives became unmanageable indeed.
- Members can learn to accept alcoholism as a disease which they cannot control in others.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Members frequently motivate themselves to the brink by trying to reform or control their loved one.
- When they understand they cannot do anything to change their loved one, people are now able to accept they can relax and let go for their peace of mind.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Learning how to forgive is an extremely important step of the program, together with acceptance.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- A huge part of the steps are self-discovery, and this is the beginning of the procedure.
- Attendees have the option of creating a list of how they could have wronged themselves or their loved ones with examples like threats issued, Etc.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong doings.
- This is an examination of every item within the moral inventory of the member and will allow them to delve into every problem.
- We are entirely prepared to have god remove all these defects of character.
- Spiritual help is recognised as one way through which they can be helped.
- Humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings.
- This part of the twelve step process helps people realize how controlling or judgmental they have been towards an alcoholic and how counterproductive it is.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends with them.
- Very often, righting a wrong starts with yourself.
- Lots of people tend to blame themselves for addiction of their significant others.
- They must agree to pardon themselves and make amends.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- After you are willing to make amends, the following step is to act on it.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Going through the 12 steps is a process which will take time.
- There is also a possibility for relapse when trying to recover in the program.
- Step Ten acknowledges that this is a permanent process.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious effort with god as we understood him praying only for the knowledge of his will and the power to carry that out.
- This step is a personal, spiritual one; it comprises acceptance and comfort in view of the great stress of recovery.
- Having experienced a spiritual awakening thanks to these steps, we tried to spread the word to other people, and to always practice these principles.
- This stage appreciates the fact that the process is long and doesnt end after a while.
- Members are then motivated to assist other members with what they have learned.
Recognising The Higher Power
Members of Al-Anon believe there is a "higher power' greater than themselves even though the group is not affiliated with any religion. Every member has their own religion affiliation. All religions are well represented and no one is forced to change to another religion.