Some people think that they can protect the alcoholic from him/herself while others think that they can tell what the alcoholic will do next, always with good intentions.
Alcoholics undergoing treatment have a lot of anecdotes about them. Some of the Proverbs are intended to make you think while the others can be taken literally. Alcoholics anonymous refers to this phenomenon as "the insanity of our disease." The statement by alcoholics anonymous is considered to be literal in every sense. The statement simply implies that to understand the mind of an alcoholic such that it makes sense is only possible if you're almost incapable of thinking rationally, unable to accept or learn from mistakes, unable to make use of common sense and not even able to spot the most obvious behavioural patterns and this is why alcoholism is said to possess some aspect of insanity.
Alcohol dependency comes in very many shapes and forms. A person who's drinking but functioning well enough and is yet to lose most of the things they value in life is the one being described above. They will definitely experience such losses according to the way of addiction and also experience an unfortunate future (like jail or death) according to the rule of threes. The beliefs, actions and feelings of addicts are based on a warped system of thinking about themselves and their environment.
They are often accustomed to living life around the extremes and believe they should be getting all or nothing. Within their world view they do not have any terms, which indicate moderation, no middle ground, no compromise or grey areas. Alteration of their understanding is what alcoholics perceive because they are in an existence of refusal that they are harmful to themselves and others.
Because of their ability to convince themselves that lies are truths by justifying and rationalizing everything, you will discover the biggest liars among addicts. This takes at a subconscious level.
They don't comprehend that they are ruining their lives.
There are words that alcoholics adopt to fool others saying things that aren't true. "Possibly" is the word they prefer. This is meant to express intention even when there is none. When an alcoholic says they will probably do something is very improbable they will do it. Words such as these provide an escape for an alcoholic since they don't get to make any promises and also avoid giving a straightforward answer. The alcoholic relies on words and phrases like possibly, would, maybe, could, should, I'd like to, I want to and I need to. These words don't make sense. They normally end up not being carried out even though they sound good. With the passage of time alcoholism blurs every line and impacts every interaction, relationship and every part to the alcoholic's world.
The alcoholic's perspective is similar to the one of a horse with blinders that doesn't let it see on the sides. They can attend to numerous things but in order to achieve this objective, they must turn their attention away from one thing toward the other.
Multitasking for the person addicted to alcohol determine a lot of disorder at once. The active alcoholic cannot concentrate. They will focus on the one thing in their life that is currently failing and keep their focus on it, usually going overboard. Other aspects of their lives will be failing as they keep their attention on the first thing and before long, they'll simply be trying to attend to the problem that has them most worried at any given moment much like "firehouse management". This is clearly a downward spiral, although some alcoholics manage to maintain a degree of control over it for a long time.
Since alcoholics are likely to drink gradually more they will mainly hide the regularity and quantity they consume. You will be factually informed that they only took three glasses of wine. The other side of this truth maybe that the glass was actually a tumbler holding 16 ounces. The negative consequence alcohol causes in their existence is also concealed together with their drinking. Counselors say that alcoholics evolve "an external locus of control." They will start blaming other people for all their problems as time goes on. In case their job isn't going well it's due to the fact that their employer dislike them. The partner is guilty if the marriage is sinking. They believe that their kids are not thankful if they are not acting as a parent should.
They will find a cause for drinking in anything and everything.Terrible situation at work / partner / children are to be blamed if they end up having a drink.
It is common to notice alcoholics having a bizarre sense of entitlement among themselves. The reasoning they provide for this belief is things like a difficult life, too much stress and numerous demands, which give them the entitlement to choose actions that are immature, irresponsible and selfish. When observing the behaviour of an alcoholic it is easy to conclude and come to a belief that the entire world must owe them something. The active alcoholic becomes very involved in self-pity and confirms tat they are sufferer of life. They give less from their side while they ask for more from everybody else.
The word "Screw it" is actually their fastest path to destroying themselves. This is an affirmation that all things are already ruined so they may as well consume alcohol. When alcoholics give up the drink we make them observe that "It" really is "Me". This is visible in, "It's not worth it." On many occasions, the alcoholic is aware of the truth, but they usually work hard not to understand it. They pretend and demand that all is well and try to convince those close to them into buying the fantasy. Everything increasingly turns into exteriority and less into practicality. This has been explained adequately in pink's song "family portrait." "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal '"
Though the alcoholics may not have been in the act of swindling people before, they develop the skills to con people with time. They are the ones that can convince everything, even selling ice to Eskimos. If they want you to leave, they will not just start a fight with you but will also make you believe that it is your fault. Alcoholics will also not want to be accountable for anything they do. They might have had principles before their addiction begun, however it will be away from their lives since they spiral. Every alcoholic has a single exception to this rule, which is one thing which they do exceptionally well, and it will in most cases be their sole-source of self-esteem. There are many workers that are alcoholics and are very serious with their job but on the side are consuming their drink.
With time, alcoholism will take everything away from the alcoholic We have been requested too many times if alcoholism is really a illness or an option. It is truly both things. Alcoholism is the only sickness that is undetected and is not honest to the addicted. The one who is active in alcohol addiction has a singular option comparative to all other illnesses. The alcoholic can reduce anytime and many do. We notice that alcoholics will quit drinking for a period to show themselves or other that they aren't alcohol addicted, just to come back later with revenge.
A recovery from alcoholism involves a lot more than just remaining sober. Modifying every part of one's life is needed to retrieve from alcoholism. A dry drunk is an alcoholic who has stopped drinking and this means that while they may not be drinking, they're still far from recovery and some people remain dry drunks for many years. I think that the program from Alcoholics Anonymous is the only chance to put life back together. The benefit of the AA program cannot be overemphasized and they could be improved with several innovations. Friends and relatives of alcoholics undergoing treatment must assist them all through. Unfortunately, I come across a number of friends and families who are unwittingly enabling [protecting the alcoholic from the natural consequences to their behaviour] the alcoholic and this inevitably result in the individual continuing to remain with the addiction.